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It’s A Woman’s Prerogative To Change Her Mind


In my 35 years of living, I’ve started and stopped lots of things. Some I finished, some it would seem I left undone. One friend of mine says that she recognizes the will of God for her life in the opening and closing of doors. For me it’s the shift or release that I feel within that lets me know when the Spirit of God is moving me away to the next thing. As for directions or questions of, “Is this your will God? Should I do this or that?” God has always led me according to whatever the current principle he is teaching. Because of the ways God has led me, there is usually very little to no physical evidence BUT once I begin to move by faith the evidence manifests in what was left behind and what was grasped ahead and all things become more clear.

In this way of living, it has become almost impossible for me to perceive any choice I’ve made as a mistake, even though all of my choices have not led to great outcomes. I don’t allow myself to feel tied down to a choice or decision. I’ve learned to give myself permission to change my mind, to reflect and shift, or to come to a place where my heart mind and spirit agree, “That’s enough.” If those three line up in confirmation, the thing is DONE, NO regret NO remorse NO second thoughts. Just DONE, and it need not be at a point of completion or place of “success” it’s more of knowing I have gotten the internal purpose worked out within me. That’s a hard thing to explain to people. It can make you look lazy, irresponsible, frivolous among other things but when you know you know and to continue in a thing when it is done would be like laying down with death.

I’ve moved from different ministries, changed jobs, and started multiple businesses and they have all been of purpose to me. Maybe not the purpose that others may have expected or desired and perhaps not even all of the original purpose I imagined when I set out to do it, but they have all been sown by faith and still produced fruit. Choices and decisions need not bring on anxiety or indecisiveness, for the word says God is able to make ALL things work together for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose.

So, can we make a wrong choice? Yes! But wrong choices do not prevent God’s will in our lives. God is the author and finisher of our faith, He says those whom he chose he already predestined and whom he predestined is already glorified. To him we are a completed work, his workmanship in Christ Jesus, which he created before time and already destined to good works in Him. He knows the way we go before we make a step and he knows our thoughts from far off. God himself gives us free will for a reason. He is not a controlling God yet he is in complete control because of his complete sovereignty over all. His requirement is that we operate according to faith. For without faith it is impossible to please him, for he that comes to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them who diligently seek him.

So, how does this apply in our day to day living? As a mother, wife, and business owner among so many other things, I’ve found God’s principles to be consistent in every area of my life. I relate to wind and water and I consider myself to be a free flowing type of person. I like flexibility and change. I do not like to feel stuck or stagnate. I know God has created me this way because of his purposes for me. With that being said, I have to purposely guard my heart against condemnation. Since in this world man esteems commitment to physical things over being led by the Spirit. But as Jesus told Nicodemus,

“Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. That which is of the flesh is flesh and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. The wind blows where it does and you hear the sound of it but cannot tell where it comes and where it goes, so is every one that is born of the Spirit.”

Most often God gives his people assignments that expire. God’s people are most often seen living from tents wells and altars. He leads us to pitch our tents in places and situations in order to be of use to him. He works something within us for our own growth as well as uses our presence to bring correction, edification, and/or exhortation to those around us. All through the bible anytime God’s people are stuck or stagnate they are in bondage and most likely operating in disobedience and rebellion. We are called to live faith to faith and glory to glory, accumulating testimonies being living epistles read of men all to the glory of God.